Our society’s history with segregating people based on their differences (e.g., the “coloured section”), can make recognizing differences in today's modern and diverse society, feel like we are repeating the problem. The resulting anxiety can make us ignore differences or acknowledge them in a token or stereotyped way. This minimizes the rich complexity of people’s experiences needed for better understanding and is the crux of the dilemma with many individual and organizational approaches to inclusion.Read More
My father never wanted me to be a psychologist. In fact, I remember when I lived at home as an undergraduate student, I would hide my “Department of Psychology” mug in the back of the cupboard, to avoid his disgruntled whenever he saw it. Although I knew the separate reasons he articulated to me for this frustration, I don’t think I pieced them together as a full concept until after I moved into the area of consulting psychology.Read More
When my son was 2 and a half years old and I was buckling him into his car seat, he exclaimed to me, “Papa, I don’t want to be Muslim anymore”. Stunned, I tried to ask him somewhat casually, “Why?”. “Because Paw Patrol only celebrates Christmas and not Eid.” he said, rather matter of fact.
Although as a psychologist I am aware that the way we think about our world (and more importantly...Read More
The heart of any good relationship is the ability to see things from each other’s perspectives. That simple quality leads to empathy, compassion, respect, and a fair negotiation of terms (spoken or not) that allows us to meet each other’s needs.Read More